Comments on: Reflections on Mother’s Day http://equalwrites.org/2009/05/10/reflections-on-mothers-day/ Feminism and Gender Issues at Princeton University Fri, 02 Dec 2011 08:44:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: LSG http://equalwrites.org/2009/05/10/reflections-on-mothers-day/#comment-731 Thu, 14 May 2009 20:09:00 +0000 http://equalwrites.org/2009/05/10/reflections-on-mothers-day#comment-731 Undoubtedly I speak for feminists everywhere when I say that you have shown us the error of our ways, and we repent in dust and ashes. Our acknowledgment of Mother’s Day was, indeed, nothing but a feeble attempt to express our hatred for men in a way that also gave us a chance to eat large Sunday brunches at the expense of our long-suffering husbands and fathers. It also gave us an opportunity to cackle about the immeasurable power of Mothers, who can snatch away infants from those infants’ loving fathers just because they, like us, hate men with such fiery passion. Now leave us, so we may rend our garments and weep bitterly at our own wickedness.

Seriously. Go away.

]]> By: novaseeker http://equalwrites.org/2009/05/10/reflections-on-mothers-day/#comment-728 Tue, 12 May 2009 22:31:00 +0000 http://equalwrites.org/2009/05/10/reflections-on-mothers-day#comment-728 Well Mothers Day is here, so it’s time to bash fathers again … and then again next month at Fathers Day.

This time it’s from Roland Martin at CNN, echoing the seeming MSM chorus that men should simply “man up”.

“It has gotten to the point that a mother is considered essential in a family, but a father is optional, expendable, and increasingly irrelevant.
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I am convinced that our city streets have turned into killing fields because dads have abdicated their responsibility in the raising of their children. Yes, mom is vital. But there is something different about dad speaking, lecturing, cajoling, disciplining, embracing, loving and caring.”

Can I just say one thing: Knock it off with the man-bashing, Roland.

You’re missing the main issue, and ignoring the huge elephant on the table.

Not one single mention of family law. Not one. How does Roland think fathers are supposed to function as fathers in the context where they can be removed as fathers for no reason at any time by their wives — or where they can even do so themselves? When did we decide as a society that it was in the best interests of our children to allow either of their parents to remove their fathers from their lives for no reason? Was it the men who clamored for laws allowing for that? No, it wasn’t. It was feminism and women in general, and as we know, it is women who make more use of it than men do (as we would expect, since, again, women were the ones who demanded the right to end a marriage quickly and easily for no reason).

I can tell you this. It’s going to take more than wagging fingers at men to restore fatherhood and get fathers to take fatherhood more seriously. It won’t really be possible without a change in the law, and we know how likely that is. I suppose one silver lining is that more people are generally realizing that there is a crisis. That’s good, even if they do not have the political courage to take on the real cause of it. Perhaps one day they will find that courage.

But in the meantime, pardon me for being very angry, almost livid, at reading an article like that, as a man who has been through the preposterous farce that counts as “family law” in the United States.

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